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So chill out, other people have a right to their views too. What he was referring to was when someone goes OUT OF THEIR WAY to put that phrase, ‘my kids come first’, in a profile or write it during a conversation (how does that even come up in conversation???) there are HUGE issues there and the person reading it should run for dear life. So there was no need for you to “counter” with “why I would put my child over a man” because he wasn’t arguing that point - you veered off into a completely different direction with your rant.If the guy is reluctant or seems “too eager” to meet the kids (like on the first date), that should be a red flag.If you are divorced I can tell you why and if you can’t find any man I can tell you why. Does this mean that your children’s’ spouses will be evil if they prefer their children over you?
What I’m saying is when there is a committed healthy (non abusive) relationship, your mate is important too.Like I said before, kids grow up and live their own lives.Your mate is the one who will grow old with you (hopefully) and spend the rest of his life with you.And I have never heard anyone give themselves such pious, sanctimonious airs about motherhood who is anywhere near the precious, loving little saint of a mommy they’re so desperately trying to convince people they are.Genuinely good, selfless mothers don’t talk the way you do. There are predators who do specifically target unwed mothers for especial attention because they’re looking to find someone who is emotionally vulnerable so that she’s so pre-occupied that they have easy access to kids to do what they really want to do to kids. Single moms do not need extra drama in their lives and if the man is bringing the drama and forcing her to decide “it’s either me or the kids” then she is right to deep six that guy!